How To Survive Old Age (Your Own or Someone You Love)

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Peterborough Midwife Authors Book on Care for

the Elderly

tracey-monadnock ledgerBy Dave Anderson

Monadnock Ledger-Transcript

Monday, November 5, 2012
(Published in print: Tuesday, November 6, 2012)



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coins-iphoneLove Living Longer’ Nationwide Book and Lecture Tour Set for Summer 2013 from Authors of Caregivers Guide ‘Hope I Don’t Die Before I Get Old’ 

Like many women, Mary Boone Wellington and Tracey Bowman , authors of the new book–“Hope I Don’t Die Before I Get Old” have spent collective decades caring for their aging parents, friends and their children. By interviewing experts and people from all walks of life who have achieved a healthy, happy old age, they have determined a few universal principles that make for an active and satisfying retirement.

Single by Choice–Five reasons to live alone, flower and vaseeven on Valentines Day

Living alone is no longer an indication one has failed in the race to couple up, especially for middle aged and older adults.  Valentines day is coming and the online dating sites are seeing a rush to sign up and find a partner. Top sites like Match, E-harmony and OK Cupid report a 25-30% increase in new clients from New Years to Valentines Day… Link to complete article

Older and Wiser–A Better Brain is Not Just Wishful Thinking Anymore

Brains of older people may well have abilities that younger folks have not yet developed. Rose Cottage Press details new study linking weight training to better memory, decision making, and problem solving.

Rethink Your Resolutions: Rose Cottage Press Reveals Three Surprising Indulgences that Support Good Health

Resolve to drink more coffee, eat more chocolate and have that glass of wine. From the new book-”Hope I Don’t Die Before I Get Old” published by Rose Cottage Press– Link to Complete Article

Holiday Dilemma – What Not to Do When You Discover Loved Ones Can’t Cope on Their Own Anymore from Rose Cottage Press

New caregiver’s guide “Hope I Don’t Die Before I Get Old”, gives options to families who discover that a loved one can no longer safely stay “Home Alone.”

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Safe to Live Alone?

Quote start“It is just great having so much useful information about caregiving in one book!”Quote end

Whitefield, NH (PRWEB) December 18, 2012

The joys of the holiday season can sometimes be overwhelming as our attention is drawn in many directions at once–kids off from school, gifts to buy, decorations to put up–the round of parties. One more challenge is the very last thing needed, but often this is the time of year when we discover evidence that our loved ones are not safe living at home alone or with an aging spouse. Some extra caregiving may be needed, but what is the first step?

Tracey Bowman and Mary Boone Wellington in their new book-”Hope I Don’t Die Before I Get Old” –, have created a valuable collection of information and recommendations from the front lines of caregiving.

ER Doctor, Victoria Martin of Dartmouth Hitchcock Hospital in Hanover, NH revealed that she often sees the elderly during the holidays because that is when their family members come and visit.

“If they haven’t seen grandma (or grandpa) in months, the family may be alarmed if they notice a health deterioration. They bring her in and want her admitted. If there is a real problem, of course we admit them.” But often that is not the case. The real problem is that grandma is just too frail to live on her own anymore. “Sometimes the family just leaves them here in the hospital and refuses to take them home.” The Emergency Department is really not a place to leave a patient who does not need emergency services.


While it is better to be safe than sorry in having your loved ones checked out by medical professionals– don’t call an ambulance unless they are:


1. Having trouble breathing or not breathing

2. Fell for no reason and were unconscious, even if briefly

3. Bleeding uncontrollably or clearly in need of stitches

4. Having chest pain

5. Exhibiting signs of stroke –


“While the family should have been able to anticipate this moment, they often can’t, because they really want to believe things will get better on their own, or grandma hides her condition from them so they don’t know anything. There can be denial on both sides as to when caregiving is needed,” said Dr. Martin


Five things you should do if your loved one does not need hospitalization:

1. Contact your local Geriatric Care Manager – ( This web site will help you find a qualified professional in your area to sort out the details of home or nursing care.

2. Be prepared to care for your loved one at home for a week or so until a good placement can be located.

3. Call in your caregiving support network, relatives, friends and family to help out temporarily. Most people will be glad to help if you make your request specific. Example: Can you please bring a dish for Tuesday dinner, or come spend an hour with Mom so I can get out of the house?

4. Make a search for all the legal paperwork you will need to help finance the care for your loved ones. Start with insurance policies that may help with long term care. Locate bank information, mortgage documents, birth certificates, military service records, marriage and divorce documents. These will help with VA pension applications and grants that may be available to you.

5. Give yourself a break. This is a stressful experience and you will undoubtedly have some ‘less than proud’ moments. Remember that your loved one may not show you gratitude and may even blame you for the state of affairs. An hour “off” will do wonders for you, especially if you spend it on an activity that truly supports your own well being, like a brisk walk, time at the gym or a chat with your spiritual advisor.

The book “Hope I Don’t Die Before I Get Old” published by Rose Cottage Press (http://www.BeforeIGetOld.Com) details how to get the right help to keep your loved ones happy and healthy. The book was inspired by the author’s struggles to provide the best quality of life possible for their parents as they aged. As each others support network, Bowman, an RN and midwife, and Wellington, CEO of Rose Cottage Press, shared their struggles and triumphs.

Their personal stories are inspiring, as we see them lose and regain their temper and good humor, deepening their relationship with beloved parents while discovering all the tricks and resources to keep them safe and happy-tips they share at the end of each chapter, along with specifics and contact information for east reference.


 Listen to the authors disuss key topics from Hope I Don’t Die Before I Get Old on our first ever radio interview with Trudy Thomas on the Body, Mind, and Spirit Radio. Click this link to listen in:

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